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Today’s prompt is a letter to your parents/in-laws/sons. I am choosing to write the letter to my parents especially my mom as I lost my father a few years ago.
Though we talk every day sometimes even more than once, but still I wanted to write this letter to you because there are so many things I like to talk about. Let me start by saying that, what a wonderful job you have done as a parent. When I look back to my childhood and teenage years; and now that I handle a teenager of my own, I realise what a hard job it was. And both my brother and me turned out to be pretty decent; so give yourself a pat in the back. This letter is my attempt to let you know what I learned from you that I seriously want to pass on to my children.
First thing I learned from you is, family is everything. And by family I don’t mean just the four of us; but the extended family members. I remember how you welcomed all our relatives in our home; how you opened up our home to host my cousin’s marriage and even the marriage of a distant relative because her own father did not like the family she was marrying into. We always invited in all our friends; so much so that our home was the place that by default became the hang out place for my friends and my brothers’ friends. You didn’t mind young boisterous boys shouting and playing carrom all day; in fact, you joined them. Today when we meet and remember our childhood days, it frequently starts with “you remember the time when uncle did that or said that or when aunty made that”. That is what I want to be; I want my home to be the place where my sons’ friends can feel at home; a place where our relatives, even the most distant ones can feel welcomed in.
The second thing I learned from you, especially my father, is how to enjoy life. And that didn’t always involve spending huge amount of money. But what it involved was giving time to us. I remember how we used to play together; especially when there was a power cut (such a common thing in the 80’s) and we used to play hide and seek in the darkness. How dad used to take us out for dinner in a good restaurant at least once during the Puja holiday and to the zoo or the circus every winter. Our holidays every four year were such an epic thing; something which have stayed fresh in my memory as if it was just yesterday!! And I feel ashamed to say that we, both my husband and me, have not been up to mark in this regard. True we go to holiday now and then, but we don’t spend that much time with them as you have. Yes the times are different; there are so much entertainment now than it was there when we grew up; but amidst all the video games and computer and mobiles of today, I still miss those dark rooms and the fun of playing hide and seek.
The third thing I learned and that from you mom, is trusting your children. You never questioned us if we talked to a boy or a girl; you knew that if I liked someone, I was to come and tell you and not be punished for that. You allowed my brother and me to go with another friend to a New Year event in another end of the city; and I remember how tensed I was because it was 2 AM when we returned. I think I was more worried about that than you were!!! You trusted us to know what I could do and couldn’t. Not many girls of my age had that freedom. And the best part is, you gave the same freedom to both of your children!! And now that I am the mother, I try to give that same amount of trust to my sons. I want them to mix freely with girls of their age; know that they can come and talk to me when they like someone.
Oh the list continues!!! And it will become longer and longer as I grow up as a parent with my sons. Each age brings in new set of challenge and I know that I have your memories as a parent to help me tackle them. So I will end the letter by saying thank you; thank you for being the coolest parent one can dream of having.
I would like to thank Alpana Deo for introducing me. You can read her post here.
I would also like to introduce my fellow blogger Aashi, you can read her wonderful post on the prompt here.
Hope you check back tomorrow and see a new letter!!